Frederick is a lot more crowded than it was when I was a kid. If you are a driver in Frederick, Maryland or if you drive through Frederick during your commute to and from work, you probably know what I'm talking about. The Golden Mile on 40 is crowded, Route 15 is crowded, I-70 at a standstill during rush hour traffic.

All of this, plus the daily stresses that each of us face can lead to perfectly normal, decent people having moments of road rage.

I personally could care less if you exhale a curse word when someone cuts in front of you. It might be a perfectly normal reaction to someone almost causing you and your car full of kids to have an accident.

What worries me though is the unnecessary escalation of anger and the unnecessary health and relationship risks due to built up stress, anger, and rage.

I'm not one of those "go feel good about everybody" types of people. Some people's actions don't warrant it. I'm talking about purely selfish reasoning here - selfish for you and those you love and care about. Forgiving other people is never for the other person's benefit - they probably don't even remember the event. It's for your benefit, pure and simple.

Sometimes anger might be justifiable, but make sure you use good common sense, stay within the law, and also have choices available to you instead of knee-jerk anger responses.

But even if you never "lose it" in public and stay out of trouble with the law, what about the other long term effects of built up anger and rage?

For instance, if you're working a stressful job just to make ends meet because you love and care about your family, and you're driving through traffic to and from work every day, what happens to all that stress?

First of all, it affects your body and your ability to think clearly and be successful at your job.

Second, that stress gets carried in to the workplace, and then eventually as it builds throughout the day gets taken home after that rush hour drive. And compound that if your spouse or others in your household are also going through the same thing day after day after day.

Have you heard of Pavlovian conditioning?

Well like it or not, at the subconscious level, you get home, frustrated, and your partner greets you at the door, touches you, and says "how was your day?" and that creates an ANCHOR where all that frustration you're carrying through the door gets associated with going home and seeing your spouse, hearing their voice, feeling their touch.

Over time that causes unwanted resentments and even wandering thoughts that can lead to affairs, divorces, nasty custody battles, and lots of stress related physical and mental illnesses.

But it doesn't have to be that way.

There's a real simple drill from Energy Medicine (one of the best sources on the planet for learning about Energy Medicine is Donna Eden's book by the same name, Energy Medicine). My friend, John La Tourrette, a 10th degree black belt taught me the drill originally. He and his son Jack run the website mentaltrainingsecrets.com, and they've got some awesome materials, by the way!

I've included a youtube video clip on this page demonstrating that drill to CURE your own road rage, and it works well with all kinds of anger and resentments - it's called "Expelling the Venom." I have that exercise along with four additional ways to "cure road rage" on my new DVD "How-To-Stop Road Rage!" and I wanted to share this drill from the DVD with you because I think it will make a huge difference in the quality of your life!

Please don't just watch the video clip. Actually watch it and then go through it again and DO the exercise! I promise you it will be well worth the few seconds it takes for you to learn it.

Ok, here's that video clip I promised you!

 

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Drive safe, be happy and prosperous Frederick!

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